[Zero0]

Please read this and then feel free to respond. Once you are done, leave me alone.

Caring for your Introvert
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[Heretic]

that's funny, in an ironic way. I don't believe in 'introvert' being "anti-social"...

ignoring your context, i'd have to say that bullies and fucktards the world over tout the line that social skills are optional, pointing to the existence of "introvert" as proof social skills are optional.

I think there's a deep deep lie in society that allows people like George W. Bush free reign.

*ahem* anyways, off to read your article...and i'm back.

[Zero0]

Your right, introvert does not mean anti-social, in fact I would say that my social skills are very good. Social situations have the same amount of strain on my mind that a marathon has on the body of a runner.

Maybe I should get a sign telling people exactly how I feel about the idea of small talk with them: no no, thats not it, more like FUCK OFF!!!


Hey muf, you there is an emoticon out there that would convey that message?
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[Heretic]

Well, let's discuss this. The topic is my bread and butter...as a troll slayer, as a mentor and as a motherFAQer...not sure if my archival skills come into play here.

Social skills are always an effort. You'll notice that it occurs the instant you wake up, if you're in a social situation right then - specifically the laziness-induced grumpiness that occurs (we're all human)

The body, i've found, encourages that effort - since to do so validates it's need of 'love' (a rather misunderstood and overly adjectivified word in the human language)

Part of a social situation is learning. Though, in a social situation that usually entails admitting a mistake to another, which entails a healthy embarrassment, which entails the courage to be curious enough to make oneself potentially vulnerable to an uncomfortable emotion in a social situation.

Curiosity also begets tolerance, patience and honesty...

However, let us go back to my earlier reference to 'laziness': some people, from fear of admitting mistakes (which entail making oneself vulnerable to feeling uncomfortable emotions) will do anything to maintain a sense of control.

The path of least resistance in a social situation is to take or give offense. There are a number of permiatations to this. But, rest assured they aren't invented by the mind, but are the lowest common denominator that even a retard will instinctively undertake subconsciously.

Now, you'll see this manifested in the "good guy/gal" and "bad boy/girl" stereotypes of the dating world...it is not unique to this, but systematic and symptomatic of something deeply ingrained in our collective psyche - brainwashing by a bigoted civilization thoroughly and absolutely corrupt.

I'm tracking down ways to counteract such bullying behavior and strange aversions to 'love' that manifest in the need of asshats to be unwelcome disractions (not to mention lazy and liars to boot)

For now, let me leave you with one tactic to counter the bully: Have you ever felt a smirk or smile for no reason as you attempt to avoid a confrontation with a bully's seemingly endless capacity for aggressive 'acting out'? The bully has no idea, consciously, of the evil he's tapping in order to facilitate your reaction. Oh yes, the bully is well away of the effect he has, although completely zero understanding of the process in any conscious form.

one can even point out HIS mysterious smirk as something he knows not the reason why, and you'll create an unreasoned fear in the asshat.

The counter is thus: be natural in your perception of your environment. Look up and around when you feel like it, do not be shy on account of the bully.

You will notice the bully's "effortless" aggression appear as a sweaty act. A poseur striving constantly to maintain that look of the "model employee" or what have you.

Read David Webber's Honor Harrington series and his stock character of the corrupt spoil officer immediately snaps into focus as a handy allusion.

Anyways, There's three other bully types that I'm researching...Once I have a counter for each, i'll try to remember this thread. =)

[Zero0]

Time for me to start reading I think.
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